Yeah, I think I need an invert option like what I can see in gpio-ir “Invert” firmware/boot/overlays/README at master · raspberrypi/firmware · GitHub
so it works inverted. I will read through the link you sent tomorrow and I will update here, I am running a restore now (samba > “A log of GB”) I will test all options available so far.
Additional: I have a work around as the relay module has a “biased on” so I wired that way, but I intend to use a Solid State Relay that only has the regular LOW = off and HIGH = ON option, so I really need to solve this problem, so I can use the silent relay.